Giving players a say in the 6- results. Do you?
I occasionally try to go “ok, so you failed your shot. What else did go wrong?” It depends on the players (and I sure have a veto), but usually the results are fine. Like “So I missed, and the arrow hit… the torch, so we are all in dark now?”
I found that players who occasionally depict their own failures will more generously accept when I make a harsh move on them.